Twins Q&A
Before I start answering a few questions I want to say that I understand this is a sensitive topic for many and give a warning for anyone who may want to read on if this could be triggering for you.
Dave and I truly feel so lucky that we were able to get pregnant and know that many struggle to do so. For anyone having difficulty conceiving or who have experienced loss I send you my love and prayers. The road to becoming a parent looks different for everyone and I would never want to disregard your feelings when posting our own. Just know that I believe in you and yours. Especially those close to me who have been fighting this journey, I am so proud of you and your strength.
I don’t take our blessing of twins for granted and am beyond grateful that Dave and I get to be on this journey together. Thank you everyone for your support.
♡ ANSWERING YOUR QUESTIONS ♡
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Q: Do twins run in the family?
A: Definitely the most asked question lol. Dave’s great grandma was a twin and my great aunt was a twin. So kinda but not really? Haha it was VERY much a surprise when we found out.
Q: How was the first trimester?
A: Not going to lie, first tri was really tough for me. I was nauseous pretty much all day everyday and felt like I was working at 20% of my normal energy at all times. I was really surprised how physically draining it was. I was also incredibly anxious and afraid something was going to go wrong the whole time.
I was alone a lot of the time because Dave left for Boston the first week of January and it was preseason. We found out about moving to Boston and about the twins in the same week lol. Moving to a new state is always a little stressful butI think with the babies it just really made me overthink things and worry a lot more. There was just a lot going on. I missed Dave, my friends and family, and just wanted my mom all the time. Everyone was really amazing constantly staying in touch, scheduling visits, and checking in with me. I feel really lucky that I feel the support I have on the daily.
Q: Were you preparing to conceive leading up to your wedding?
A: We knew we wanted to start trying right after we got married, so I went off my birth control and Lexapro about 5 months before our wedding. I had also slightly switched up my workout routine to put more of an emphasis on lower impact workouts rather than endurance/ high intensity.
Q: When are you due?
A: August! Original due date was 8/27 but my doctor says she won’t let me go past 37 weeks with twins, so it will probably be the first or second week of August.
Q: When did you announce to friends and family?
A: We took the test super early on Christmas morning and told our families right after. We were with my family so we put it in the presents when opening gifts. We told Dave’s family via FaceTime right after. It was the best ever.
We know this is super early to tell and everyone should do what feels comfortable for them. For us we knew we couldn’t keep it a secret from our family and also wanted them to know if god forbid something went wrong and we needed their support.
Whatever you choose is the right choice for you. We will remember this Christmas for ever and ever.
Also since my fam got to find out first we made sure Dave’s fam got to find out the gender first to make it fair hehe. Watch our gender reveal here!
Q: How did you tell Jo?
A: She knew we were going to start trying on our honeymoon! She asked for an update over text after Christmas and I immediately FaceTimed her and told her and her family hahaha. There was no way I could keep it a secret from her either.
Q: Can you talk about Lexapro & pregnancy? Did you stop? Are you still taking?
A: Okay I wanted to clarify since I got lots of questions about why I stopped taking Lexapro before I started trying to get pregnant. I will go more in depth on YouTube but can explain the gist here.
When I weaned off last year it was NOT a direct fertility recommendation from my doctor. I have weaned myself off before with my doctor’s supervision and idk why I just assumed I should be off everything when I was trying to get pregnant. In retrospect after talking to multiple doctors that was totally unnecessary. It was just something I got in my head personally and did.
I stayed off Lexapro through my whole first trimester. But both of my doctors (the one I had in Nashville before I switched to my Boston one) recommended I go back on it. I was like… oh is it that obvious I am anxious?!?! hahahah. But anyway I really was. First tri and the move (plus some other personal stuff) I just kept overthinking things and was so terrified of something going wrong. It really was starting to impact my daily routine. My doctors said stress is far worse for the babies and that Lexapro was safe.
I still waited for the second tri to go back on it and am on a very low dose right now. VERY happy I went back on it.
Q: What are you most excited for?
Getting to see their twin bond
Learning their unique personalities
Watching Dave be their dad
Getting to reconnect with my own inner child through them seeing and experiencing the world for the first time
Everything. I am so excited. Even writing this made me tear up because I just can’t wait to meet them.
Q: How was it being pregnant at Jo’s wedding?! And then hiding any pics after?
A: I had the time of my life. Literally the best party ever celebrating Jo and Connor!!!
Q: How are you dealing with body positivity in pregnancy?
A: I answered this a few weeks ago when I felt really confident in my body and the changes it was going through- since then I have felt so different and have been honestly struggling on and off with my body image. I felt like the insecurity kind of came overnight? I have definitely noticed a lot of changes, and weight gain feeling like it’s not just in my belly anymore.
I try to remind myself that my body is doing something absolutely incredible. All the changes are to create and support LIFE and at the end of the day I would do anything to give these babies what they need.
I think it’s normal to struggle with body confidence when we are going through such a change. I really just try to not fixate and focus on having a neutral stance. I focus on my mental health, physical exercise, and getting proper nutrition. By doing this it gives me more of a sense of “control” while I go through so many changes. Also getting maternity clothes that actually fit has been a game changer to feel put together. One weight gain I’ve been loving through is having boobs LOL.
Q: Did you eat healthy and workout first and second trimester?
A: First tri I ate whatever I could that didn’t make me want to throw up haha which was basically toast and sour candy. Smaller meals/ snacks throughout the day is def more attainable than full meals. Take your prenatals and drink lots of water. You got this.
I also worked out wayyyy less first tri because of feeling nauseous all the time and just wanting to sleep. I forced myself to take walks most days and some low impact workouts. I will say the more I distracted myself the more it helped.
Second tri the nausea finally went away and I was way more active. I had a solid workout routine and was eating much better. I luckily felt pretty good second tri, so if you get some energy during this time take advantage of it. 2nd tri was so fun and cute compared to 1st and 3rd lol.
I stopped working out at 26 weeks because of short cervix.
Pregnancy is a beautiful and weird journey. I learned how to listen to my body in a whole new way.
Q: What pregnancy app do you recommend?
A: I’ve loved the @flotracker before pregnancy for period/ ovulation tracking and during pregnancy! Love how it compares their size to different fruits/ veggies for a visual and gives lots of insights into what is developing each week.
